The topic of “extreme cold watch” is trending now due to significant winter weather conditions affecting various regions across the United States. Recently, dangerous wind chills have been reported in Michigan, prompting an Extreme Cold Watch to be issued for the Upper Peninsula. This official alert is indicative of the serious risks posed by the cold weather, which is likely to raise public concern and curiosity.
Furthermore, NPR has provided guidance on understanding the various winter weather notices being issued, which includes extreme cold alerts. The confusion surrounding these notifications can lead to increased searches as individuals seek clarity and information about the dangers associated with the current weather patterns. As people look for explanations and safety measures, the volume of searches naturally amplifies.
Additionally, reports from Texas indicate that the cold air is extending as far as the Texas Hill Country, posing an unusual threat for the region, which may not typically experience such severe cold. The combination of these weather alerts across multiple states has heightened awareness and urgency, resulting in a surge of searches related to extreme cold watches.
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OK…here’s the thing…in our house we share food all the time. I mean, do you kiss her? Same germs. However, you have asked her to NOT eat out of a serving bowl and she blatantly ignors you. THAT is inconsiderate and rude.
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NTA Yeah people are poking fun at the whole “do you not kiss?” While glossing over the fact this was something he went out of his way to stress to her he does not like and it makes him not want to eat the food she then not only continued to do it but then copped an attitude. She doesn’t like being called out for gross food practices? OP doesn’t like eating spit and backwash food. Its worse that he says her whole family does this even if they’re cooking for guests thats just barbaric.
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I also think commenters are being silly by pretending that the context in which partners swap spit doesn’t matter. Just because they kiss, should he be okay if she spat in his mouth? It’s rude, it’s gross. NTA.
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Consent to swap spit is important. Used her toothbrush. Lick a utensil and put it back in the drawer. Bend her head back from behind when she’s sitting down on the couch and dangle a string of spit into her mouth and see if she still feels there should be bacterial carte blanche.
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Why are there literally hundreds of comments in this thread ignoring that fact??
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Because it’s a male OP.
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That last visual made me recoil 🤮
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Redditors, As you sit reading this, do a swallow. I mean, just do a normal swallow. NBD, right? Now, work up a little bit of spit and as before, just do a normal swallow. Still NBD, n’est-ce pas? Finally, work up a little spit, imagine spitting it into a small cup. Then imagine drinking that cup. umm…ewww…nasty. Why? It’s the same damn thing, yet most of us recoil at the thought.
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Well done, you completely changed my mind
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Ew… And, excellent point
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To take it up one level higher, it’s stupid that people are framing this as something that OP needs to justify or rationalize, saying they “don’t understand” or his complaint “doesn’t make sense”. Fuck outta here with that childish, bullying-mindset bullshit. Just like things that scare you, things that gross you out aren’t always fully rational. It doesn’t make it any less shitty for somebody to use that against you after you’ve asked them not to. You shouldn’t have to justify it. If they can’t not do the thing you asked them not to do – especially when it’s a perfectly normal thing to not want somebody to do – maybe you shouldn’t be together.
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Thank you! I am somebody that is utterly grossed out by sharing utensils. I don’t know why, I just am. I don’t mind sharing food but bring your own fork/spoon. I love my husband. I love kissing him. But if he wants a bit of my food he knows to use his own fork or grab a knife and cut a piece off. He doesn’t get offended. He doesn’t take it personal. It is just something that I don’t like and he takes the extra step to accommodate that because he loves me. And I greatly appreciate him for it. I think OP’s gf is gross for going back to the salad bowl with the same spoon and I wouldn’t eat a single thing she cooked ever again. I understand others think that’s extreme and that’s fine. If it doesn’t bother you, good for you. But he bothers him and she should stop because to keep doing it is rude and hurtful.
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This was exactly my thought. If I am cooking for just me and my partner, I totally do this because it does not matter. But if I am cooking for my friends, I end up cleaning like 10 spoons so I can taste throughout but its fine. Im happy to do it
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Fun tip- you can serve yourself from the main spoon onto a small tasting spoon. It’s helpful to save spoons.
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You could just wash the spoon
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Exactly. I’ve dated people who wanted to share toothbrushes and razor blades. I said “no thanks.” Overall, OP’s situation isn’t a big deal. But you can be OK with intimacy (e.g. kissing) and not be comfortable with other things, and that’s OK.
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Listen, I’ve had questionable things in my mouth but someone else’s toothbrush has never been one of them. Both my toothbrush and my razors are off limits. Deodorant depends on the individual. I might sound ridiculous but certain personal hygiene items are not for sharing. That’s gross.
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Yes. I don’t mind sharing a razor blade one time, but toothbrushes is a different story. Absolutely not. Does this mean I don’t want to kiss? Also absolutely not.
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Info: did she make the salad just for the two of you? If yes, then I don’t really understand. I assume you exchange bodily fluids anyway during kissing. I don’t mind if my boyfriend tastes dinner using the spoon used for mixing and then puts it back when we cook just for the two of us. If we cook for other guests then we obviously don’t do that.
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Kissing…? I bet you he doesn’t have an issue with his penis being in her mouth, but when her used spoon is supposed to go near his mouth he can’t handle it? That’s absolutely unaware behavior that has a vibe of “I make demands of others, expecting them to adapt to my wants and I refuse to reflect on myself”. Absolutely agree this is NOT an okay thing to do if you have guests or are feeding people you don’t share bodily fluids with – but your partners germs are just an extension of your own germs and this guy needs to get over himself or keep his penis to himself – either or would be acceptable.
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Thats not the point OP was making. The point is that he asked her and she chooses not do gaf. Get it?
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That’s valid. It squicks him out and he’s asked her not to do it. She should be accommodating of him. At the same time, he should admit that it’s a quirk of his that doesn’t make a whole lot of sense. He looks irrational and controlling when he insists that his concern is valid and sharing a spoon with someone you’re intimate with is “gross”. It’s gross to him, but it’s objectively not really gross at all.
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I just want to know who’s doing the dishes at the end of the night before I make a decision on who’s TA. I will go to great lengths to reduce the amount of utensils I need to clean at the end of the night lol. I hate dishes.
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What is this logic? If he eats her out every day of the week he can’t be mad if she credit card swipes the lettuce on her lower lips because his mouth will eventually get back there anyway? He has a boundary, communicated it, and she ignores it; he didn’t even have an insane reaction, he just opted out of eating. You don’t have to free roam your partner’s nooks and crevices at will to have a healthy not-pushy, not-selfish relationship. You’re simply putting a lot on this guy that’s not remotely there.
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yup, people in this thread are fucking unhinged. intentionally breaking a partners boundary after multiple talks about it is just a no go in general. what the fuck are people going on about?
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She might suck him off, but I bet you that she’d have a massive issue if he decided to stir the salad with his dick. They both go in her mouth, so what’s the issue? He asked her not to. It’s common courtesy to do a little thing like this to make your partner feel more comfortable. She easily could have gotten herself a separate bowl of salad while waiting for dinner if she was too hungry to wait.
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Thank you for your reply. I’m so relieved to see that not everyone in these comments is a complete clown lol.
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I mean I have my OHs dick in my mouth it doesn’t mean I want it in my dinner. Jesus. Context. This is how illnesses end up spreading through an entire house. You don’t eat directly from communal food it’s like …. A basic rule across so many cultures.
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I’m married I still don’t enjoy using my wife’s cutlery, glass or that she puts used utensils in fresh food. She’s understanding though, and I do most of the cooking anyway.
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I mean, technically NTA but also… you swap bodily fluids and have sex and if it’s just you two in the house what difference does it make? Like how is that different?
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This what I thought of, he must be fun to have sex with.
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I read this post and immediately thought “well he’s definitely not going down on her”
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I don’t think anyone eats out their girlfriend with a fork and spoon, but then again maybe this is just one of those weird hetero things I’m too gay to understand
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INFO this is the same gf you assumingely swap spit everyday with, right? 🤣 i get not wanting to eat her family’s spit, but you’re probably consuming hers anyways….. unless you’re not intimate at all
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Is it so hard to imagine certain things grossing people out? I make out with my girlfriend, but I wouldn’t want her spitting in my mouth or on food I’m about to eat.
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She hopefully doesnt eat the food with her fart box..
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Why are you eating salad with a spoon in the first place
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I’m guessing it’s something like a potato salad or pasta salad, not a salad made with green leafies. The comment about “spending so much time” making it would correspond better with that kind of salad, too. Usually people qualify those kinds of salads and specify potato or pasta or whatever, rather than just saying “salad” because yeah, otherwise it’s confusing.
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This irrationally annoyed me the entire time. “Say SALAD & SPOON ONE MORE TIME” 🤬
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NTA I get that people are saying that you kiss her so you shouldn’t mind BUT I think it’s just bad manners in general to be putting your used spoon back in a shared bowl. OP mentioned that her family does it too which is where gf learned it from so does that mean OP should be okay with eating at gf family’s house knowing that most likely her parents does that too?? Also what if gf is one of your friends not your partner and she has to bring a dish to a potluck then of course no one wants her spit to be in the dish. Anyways my point is it’s just not a good habit to have no matter who is doing it.
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The kissing comments are so annoying – yeah, they kiss and have oral sex, but how many people would be fine sharing a toothbrush forever with their partner? We draw lines all the time and sometimes they might seem arbitrary, but we adjust because we love our partners and want them to be comfortable; this is such an easy one for her to accommodate that it’s so obviously punitive and about control when she refuses to.
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Right. ‘oh you have sex what’s the big deal’ Yeah and no one thinks it’s okay to stir the salad with their fucking dick Brenda. Are we all okay with gf warming the tomatoes up between her legs as well? I mean it’s all the same thing right ? 😒
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100% This. It’s bad manners and *very* bad food safety and a biohazard. Her family does it too? GAH! Hepatitis A, Mono, Herpes and Cold/Flu viruses can ALL be transferred via sharing cutlery. Quite frankly, people like your girlfriend and her family are why i don’t eat at potluck. NTA. and I’d stop eating anything prepared by them. You know where your girlfriend’s mouth has been but I assume you wouldn’t know about the rest of her family.
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You kiss, you have sex, you presumably go down on her. But you draw the line at sharing food and the same utensil. Interesting. Very interesting..
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He can’t share a spoon with his gf; I really doubt he goes down on her 🤣
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I go down on my wife, and the thought of using the same utensils as her still grosses me out. Body fluids are fine immediately, not later. I can take gum out of my mouth and put it back in immediately. If I take it out and then let it sit, that thing is never going back in my mouth. I guess the bodily fluids still need to be warm, otherwise it seems gross to me
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Yeah, the line is consent. And it’s a fair line to have.
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This thread is revealing a lot of disgusting habits from people and then also how they don’t gaf about consent
Additional Sources:
NPR – Confused by all the notices issued for intense winter weather? Here’s your guide
mysanantonio.com – ‘Coldest air of the season’ now includes snow threat for Texas Hill Country
