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More people like you would make the world a much better place. Keep on keeping on

It truly sucks that its such a big part of this community, altho its not exactly surprising that people like end up in male dominant spaces.

Good for OOP that the gf fixed her behaviour, but I don’t think I’d date her in the first place if she was like that. It’s really shitty to dump on your partner’s interests.

It will come up later, it’s not fully resolved. The whole appearances thing will bite him in the ass. And it part of who she is, it won’t be fixed.

Do you think anything like this gets fully resolved after one conversation? People slip up and make mistakes, even after they say they will try to do better. That’s life, that’s human nature. She owned her mistakes and is actively making an effort to not just change her reaction to his interests, but to show an interest in them for his sake. As long as she continues to own it and continue to try to change, that’s a win. Constant effort and communication are the key here. It seems like yall are just thirsty for OP to break up with this girl instead of them resolving it like adults.

Reddit always jumps straight to “break up”. And while there’s def a good amount of posts (usually describing some form of abuse or borderline abuse) for which that is legit the only good solution, I feel like people on here don’t understand that a. All people have flaws, which means all relationships will have at least a few issues, however minor, stemming from those flaws, and b. When two people genuinely love each other and each party is mature enough to communicate in a healthy manner, most issues can be resolved when the perpetrator of the issue is willing to take accountability and put in actual work towards self improvement. I often feel as if the gamification of dating via apps being the norm for finding a partner is driving this attitude that there’s always a potential better partner out there, and its totally reasonable to drop your current one at the first sign of any issue, and that you don’t owe them any explanation of your feelings – if it bothers you, leave, cuz there’s always a better option out there. This is unrealistic, self centered, and kinda toxic imo. Not saying that we should go back a handful of decades to the attitude of “the only things that justify leaving your partner are abuse and maybe cheating, and even then, if it’s not THAT bad just suck it up” cuz that’s a million times worse, but there’s middle ground between that and what seems to be the prevailing attitude nowadays. People who think that never disagreeing with or being annoyed by anything your partner says or does is a realistic and appropriate expectation are living in a fantasy land. Healthy couples argue sometimes, all people have their flaws, and compromise on some levels is necessary in ALL relationships (including platonic ones).

Honestly seems like a bunch of single people…

Excuse you, mister! Some of us may be single right now, but fuck meddling in other people’s relationships and telling them to break up, instead of trying to be a good sounding board for their concerns. Tongue-in-cheek aside, I agree with the notion, reddit does seem oddly thirsty to ruin other people’s relationships nowadays. I miss old reddit. 🙁

I have been married 15 years. It is hard to make a relationship work if you don’t share interests. Not impossible, just very hard. I might advise others to find someone you can hitch a ride with to do the things you love.

I get the feeling that everyone here recognizes that nobody’s perfect, but when it comes time to actually deal with somebody else’s imperfections, then it’s too much. “Imperfections” are only acceptable so long as it’s something minor beyond their control, or actually a blessing in disguise. This is what being imperfect looks like, though, and if you can’t handle something like this without breaking up, you’re never going to stick around in a serious relationship. The other issue is that, when your only view of a relationship is the problem, it’s easy to see the relationship as problematic, but there’s sometimes years of history, and most of the time these people spend together is probably pretty great. Armchair psychologists assuming that the one issue they read about can be extrapolated to the entire relationship has 100% ruined some very decent relationships, and I get very annoyed when I see people jumping to “break up” for things like this. I’ve always gotta remind myself that most of the people here are terminally online kids with no serious relationship experience, who are at best passing along some version of better advice they received from others.

Ill admit my first reaction was break up but in all honesty, it seems like she has made the effort to be better and change for him, which is honestly a better sign then her already being perfect. It shows that she cares enough for him to work on herself. It does go both ways still, but in all honesty im happy for them

goat communication skills

very few things better in a relationship then good communication

That’s the only advice most on reddit are capable of giving when it comes to relationships. Bein an adult, working through things, talking. Absolutely not. People don’t change overnight, growth isn’t linear, it all takes work. Reddit just wants a pound of flesh, always. Never EVER ask for relationship advice on this website.

I used to subscribe to twoXchromosomes because as a man, it helped me see things from a woman’s perspective, which helped me grow as a person. I eventually unsubscribed, though, after one lady was saying she was finding skid marks in her husband’s underwear and occasionally on their sheets, and he got really defensive about it. It wasn’t her story that got me to leave, but the responses to it. The whole hive mind was “omg so gross divorce him,” (mind you they had teenage kids ffs, having been togrther for like 14 years) and I was the lone person in the comments to say, “sounds like he’s getting prostate issues, which often start being a problem around his age, and his defensiveness is likely not accepting bodies start to degenerate. See if you can’t get him to go to a doctor.” I was cussed out for daring to reply on that sub as a man, and how I was “clearly defending abusive disgusting behavior.” The OP and I opened a DM exchange though, because I told her the reason I even thought it was the prostate thing is I am literally going through it myself and was about her husband’s age. She did get her husband to a doctor. It was a prostate thing. The bloodlust people have on this website toward any inconvenience in relationships is *insane.* Just talk to your partners. Remember they are human. Things will improve like 95% of the time. Edit: typos

It’s also worth remembering there are a ton of bots on reddit. I feel like some people just get swept up in the deluge of bullshit and just go along with it if they can’t see past it. But yeah, reddit can be real shit at times. Brings out the worst in people.

Browsing the front page for a bit, saw this post, decided to bite. And yeah, I agree. I’m always stunned by many top comments in any type of support and adjacent subs. Someone will post “My co-worker called me dumb. What do I do?” Comments will be like “So sorry. Report to HR. Call 911 and make a police report, then throw a molotov through their living room window. Plz post an update OP.”

Exactly. It seems like everyone is just bitter that they handled it like adults and are working at bettering themselves. All the sad sack neck beards on Reddit all are claiming that she will eventually show her true colors. God, when did all the young men become so resentful of the opposite sex.

Subreddits like this attracts anxipus avoidants, who then will seek out to justify their world view, its always been this way

Yeah that is reddit’s default setting and they make extremely declarative statements like that one. It wont change, itll never work, shouldnt have started dating, I mean sheesh from the little information we know (and therefore absolutely not enough to be so confident with judgement) it sounds like it went positively. And thats a nice thing to hope for in a scenario like this. It doesnt effect me at all so i usually prefer to imagine the nice option rather than scorched earth misery option.

She might even find anime shows that she can relate to, or even find some of his interests might even align with hers. Cosplay might be something that would interest her because of the fashion and makeup used in cosplay are things that align with her interests.

Why does it need to be fixed? I care about my appearance and appearances. Why does that need to be fixed?

how she’s been treating him. That needs to stay fixed.

That isn’t about appearances, but her falling for stereotypes based on a small number of unfortunate experiences.

Yep, and she’s young enough where I think she can course correct. I cringe at a lot of my behavior from back when I was 23, and I didn’t have a whole social media culture of Insta and tik tok at the time.

yeah people don’t understand that. My wife and I have been together over 20 years. And both of us realize and will bring up that we loved each other and still do but in your early to mid 20s you’re learning how to put another person before yourself. 25 year old me was already married and I would call and be like ‘hey i’m going to go out tonight get dinner with some guys’ without even asking what she was up to or if she maybe had plan for us. And there are plenty of examples of her doing the same. People grow, you’re still learning how to be an adult at 23, you’re 5 years or less away from living with your parents and only worry about your needs.

Just like with the iPhone? Come on… She cares about appearance. IPhones are seen in a lot of countries as something “rich” people have. OP said himself that’s the case in his country. Her saying that she just likes the IPhones app better is a bs excuse.

I mean anime is packed full of misogyny, it’s not exactly a leap of logic to think a guy is likely misogynistic if he’s heavy into misogyny

Or he’s not watching that anime. It’s an entire medium from a country, it’s not going to be a monolith.

And like the thing is… celeb culture etc is also full of misogyny? I’m not saying anime isn’t, and I actually stopped watching a lot of anime due to it, but celeb culture is AWFUL for it too! The belittling of what women wear, the belittling of women’s weight, the weird creep shots of their personal lives, etc etc etc

Andrew fucking Tate (may he rot in hell) is very status minded and materialistic. I’m a big old nerd who enjoys all of the things OOP does and some of the least misogynistic men I know are men I’ve met in these spaces. Misogyny pops up regardless of cultural niche. It is everywhere, but it isn’t everyone.

Exactly. It’s prevalent in anime, it’s prevalent in celeb culture, its prevalent in the East and the West and the North and the fuckin South!!!!!!!!

Anime is a medium. There’s some actually good anime and then there’s porn. Just like movies have some good ones and then there’s Games of Thrones that has sex scenes. Also they have Cuties.

It’s a huge genre and you can’t really boil it down like that. This would be like saying “Well movies are packed with misogyny, so it’s natural to assume anyone who really enjoys watching any kind of movie is a misogynist!” You can’t really say that without knowing more specifics of what he is actually into, because anime covers the entire gamut of genres. There’s anime drama, comedy, horror, sci-fi, fantasy, you name it – not all of it is Dragonball or Naruto or whatever.

Lmao

Tbh I agreed with you, that isn’t something need to be “fixed”, she doesn’t need to change who she is, neither is OOP Honestly I just think they are not very compatible. Let’s hope they can continue work through this.

If they continue to be open to talking to each other like they did in the serious sit down, then they’ve got a good chance of developing well together. That doesn’t necessarily mean they’re going to be each other’s happily ever after (23 and 25 are so young after all) but just bc a relationship doesn’t end in growing old together doesn’t mean it can’t be worthwhile and important

Agree. That’s what I meant tbh. One thing I’ll noted is tho, it doesn’t matter of age, having the experience of knowing/ being with different persons are generally a good thing, you get to know yourself better and know what you are comfortable/ not comfortable with. Especially in OOP’s case they are already learning, I see that as a good thing. Even if in future an unfortunate happened and the relationship didn’t make it, I don’t see this as negative for both of them.

There’s a difference between caring about appearance in the sense of “I want to be hygenic and look good” and in the sense of “I need to be seen as high status and glamorous” The former is pretty normal and common, the latter is vain and puts image and reputation above happiness and authenticity – It leads to dynamics where people only care about how others see them and neglect how things actually are outside of the public eye.

Jesus reddit is so miserable when it comes to relationships.